Great question! The process of coaching is fundamentally the same no matter what the situation. Ultimately what a trained coach facilitates is the process of getting a person from where they are to where they want to be.
As a trained life coach that means I meet people where they are presently in their life and help them discover what they truly want and most importantly what’s stopping them from getting what they want. Together we formulate a plan of action to overcome their obstacles in order to move forward in a positive, confident, fulfilling way.
We can trace coaching back to nearly 2,500 years ago with Socrates, the great philosopher. As a skilled “coach”, he asked questions in a way that stimulated and compelled critical thinking and intuitive discernment. For centuries, the “Socratic Method” has been successfully used as a cornerstone for coaching and education.
There was a time when anyone who felt they had the “right stuff” would hang their ”coach” sign on the door and start prospecting for clients. Thankfully, the ICF (International Coaching Federation) was established in 1994. It is the unified governing body providing legitimacy and formal structure to coaching.
Soon after, coach training certification schools, under the umbrella of the ICF, were established throughout the United States, and now the ICF is the leading global standard for professional coaching.
One of the basic principles for most life coaches is to see each person as a whole, not just a spouse, parent, employee, etc. I wanted my style of (and approach to) life coaching to be distinct and obvious, and the term evolutionary fit the bill. Evolution means “the gradual development of something” – something such as self-awareness, self-confidence, self-empowerment, peace…
I believe in and help facilitate the gradual development, expansion, and transformation of You!
Therapy is very important and needed to help people heal from mental health disorders, i.e., trauma, PTSD, depression, etc. This work is highly treatment-focused. Coaches do not work with people with mental health disorders.
Another important difference between coaching and therapy is that unlike therapy which focuses more heavily on the past, coaching focuses on present and future but will visit the past only to gain context within the current situation.
There comes a time when a person realizes that their life is not what they want it to be. Feeling unfulfilled, stagnant, and tired of not feeling hope, peace, and vibrancy is a very real experience during these challenging times. As human beings, we all go through these periods. Working with me, together we dig in to discover what obstacles are getting in the way of you moving forward in a positive, peaceful, fulfilling way.
Every person I work with wants:
- A more enriched, meaningful life
- Peace of mind
- Inner development, growth, transformation
- Fulfilling work
- Physical and emotional health and fortitude
- To use their gifts/experiences/wisdom to make a positive difference in the world
- More deeply loving relationships
- To serve a greater good; positively contribute to society/world
An ideal client for me are people who are:
- Open-minded; Open-hearted; Introspective
- In a transitional time of life, i.e., divorce/separation, job change/loss, establishing identity/career; major loss
- Aware that something is wrong; Over-ripe for change
- In “seeking” mode; strongly desire more peace and less conflicts
- Tired on feeling stuck, overwhelmed, unfulfilled, afraid
- Feeling they’ve tried so many things but still don’t feel right
- Sudden strong emotional reactions surprising them and others; increased impatience and irritability
- Wanting more alone time; quieter than usual
- Wanting to make sudden major changes i.e., end relationship, leave job
- Making physical changes (hair style, tattoo, major weight loss/gain)
- Increased conflicts in personal and/or work relationships
- Increase in health issues, i.e., unexplained illness/symptoms, anxiety attacks, aches and pains, fatigue/hyper-ness
Why? Because with each new life challenge, the call to change will get louder and more uncomfortable. Ultimately, the cost of not making positive life changes will leave us living…
- A life of quiet desperation
- A life filled with regrets
- A life not fully lived